Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Rest and Digest

grilling potatoes

Hello. I am now into my "week 2" of life with no offspring at home. Last week I focused on housecleaning. I started by cleaning some windows, and then moved on to the bathroom, vacuuming, and laundry. I got the oven cleaned and one of the majorly cluttered kitchen cabinets. There is, of course, lots more of everything to do!

veggie burger buns

My focus this week is on self care. I got back on my yoga mat and am following Ekhart Yoga's September Program. I am working to heal several very minor, but irritating health issues. I am taking it easy this week, and allowing myself time to absorb and reflect. I am taking time to have lunch with a friend one day and my mom and son another. I am thinking about using kind and comforting words when I talk to myself, and also remembering to quiet my mind, so I can hear my intuition.

enjoying the quiet of the woods

It would be too easy to fall into a very depressed state right now, as I am quickly learning that some of the things I had long hoped to be doing in my life right now are not going to be possible after all.However, I am grateful everyday that my children are all doing well, and that keeps my spirits up.

Peace and Love,


Wednesday, August 27, 2014


Now I feel as though I have taken the final exam in Parenting, and I think I passed!! We drove 10 hours and delivered Sarah to Barnard College of Columbia University, in New York City, where she is living her best, and highest dreams. We drove 10 hours back, and we are home. For the next sixteen weeks it will be just the two of us here.

packed and ready to go

Sarah has already sent me a couple of pictures of herself doing awesome things, and I am so grateful, and relieved, that she was able to persevere and endure high school and is now reaping the rewards of her efforts. 

at the Natural History Museum
with alumna Lauren Graham

The weather here has been really lovely. Sunny and warm. Sarah and I took a trip to the wonderful NC Zoo a few days before she left. We walked all around the zoo, and walked the connector trail back to our car. It was a really lovely day.

mother and daughter

At home, I am turning my attention to all those "projects" I have been saving up! I thought I might dedicate each week to a particular focus. Do what I can that week, and then move on. With that in mind I decided to start this first week with a focus on housecleaning. There is a lot to be done. In order to help quiet my mind and improve my focus, I decided to dedicate my cleaning time to practicing being fully present, in the moment, about fifty percent of the time, and daydreaming the other fifty percent. I've been discovering the more I can quiet my mind, the more easily I can tune in to my own intuition, and when that happens everything just seems to flow. 

Peace and Love,


Sunday, August 17, 2014

A Week From Today

One week from today we will be dropping my daughter at Barnard College and beginning a new stage of our lives. My husband took his daughter to her school yesterday, so next week really is the end/beginning for us.  I have so many things I would like to accomplish, I really hope I will be able to be organized and motivated enough to do it. It has been 24 years since I have had as much time to myself, as I believe I will have this Fall and I plan to make the most of it!

Transitioning from full time mom and homemaker to full time mom of college kids and homemaker, I plan to concentrate a lot of my efforts on the homemaking part, especially at the beginning. I spend most of my time at home and my surroundings are pretty important to me. I believe creating a pleasant home environment is vital to encouraging a calm, mellow vibe. I like natural materials, muted colors, earth tones, and have recently begun experimenting with removing/reducing clutter. I have a lot if ideas and lists of projects to complete around the home.

Another aspect of my life that I would like to really focus on is self care. Being a mom is often all about putting your self care at the bottom of the to do list. No more excuses to not take good care of myself in every way!

And in my role as mom I plan to keep in close contact with all three kids, send occasional packages/gifts, and spend time preparing for winter break when we will all be together for the holidays!

Peace and Love,


Sunday, August 10, 2014

Home Is Where The Heart Is

water lily blooming in the frog pond

I have a task at hand, and going forward I can use this blog to update my journey towards experiencing peace in the moment, acceptance, love, creativity, and contentment, in this situation, as it is. I have spent a good deal of time, over the past nine years, feeling that the place where I live is not "right" for me. There is a whole story around how I got to be here, and why. I bought this house and four acres at a time of huge changes in my life. Also, I was "under the influence" of new love. Looking back, I would say that I made a really rash, uninformed decision, without weighing all the options. To put it mildly, this is not our "ideal" house, and I have not found this location to be "ideal" for me, either.

Now that our youngest two are heading to college, we have been considering the possibility of relocating. The reality is the woodworking shop is here. We own this place free and clear, as long as we pay our yearly taxes. We have no savings. We live off a small part time job my husband works to supplement his woodworking and a small allowance I receive from my mother. To be the best home based support system for our four young adult children we have decided to stay right where we are for at least four more years!

The years since 1990 have slowly passed and now my youngest child is eighteen and heading to college. I can not put off doing any of the things I think I would like to do, or creating the experiences I would like to experience. The time is now to live the best life I can. Time to take all the assets I do have and create a fulfilling life. Right here, right now.

small, red mushroom in the front yard

lying back, in the woods, looking at the sky

Peace and Love,


Thursday, June 26, 2014

Shallot and Cider Vinegar Vinaigrette

My oldest son, Fred, and his friend, Chelsea, came here last Friday and had Friday night pizza with us before heading out to see the of Montreal movie with his sister, Sarah. She just graduated from high school, and turned eighteen,and she is my youngest. Her graduation was especially nice for me because both her siblings came. It isn't very often that we are all together.

Yesterday, Fred asked me about the salad dressing I made for the large salad we had with our pizza on both occasions. I found the dressing  here.

Shallot and Cider Vinegar Vinaigrette

6 T olive oil
3 T apple cider vinegar
1 T lemon juice
1 garlic clove minced
3 T finely chopped shallot
1 t dried oregano, crumbled
pinch sugar
salt and pepper, to taste

Mix everything together well in a bowl or jar.

The important thing here is the olive oil and apple cider vinegar used. The olive oil needs to be something that actually tastes good on it's own. I used to buy a fairly expensive organic olive oil, until I actually drank a small taste, on it's own, and discovered it tasted bad!!! A good olive oil has a pressing date on the label. I like California Olive Ranch. You can get it at Food Lion, Lowe's Foods, Earth Fare, etc. It is really good. It is more expensive than some of the other grocery store brands, but you don't have to use a lot.
The apple cider vinegar should be raw, unfiltered, and include the "mother". Of course, Bragg's is classic, but you can also buy ACV in the bulk section of Earth Fare. Earth Fare also has bulk herbs, including oregano, that are organic, non irradiated, and very inexpensive. Just buy a very small amount so you always have really fresh dried herbs.
If you can't find, or don't want to use a shallot you could use a bit of red onion. Also, if your shallot is a little more or less than 3 tablespoons, use what you have.

Peace and Love,

Monday, June 23, 2014


All the while...
     the universe,
        Breaths through me...

My mind makes up,
   'elaborate stories'
to fool me into believing,
   I am in control!!

All the while...
     the universe,
        Breaths through me.

Peace and Love,


Wednesday, November 13, 2013


Should I dream of Hawaii...

   gentle breezes rustling
             the palm fronds.

   clear blue sky,

             fluffy white clouds.

   endless Sunrise and Sunset,

   endless waves...

   like a heartbeat,

             as old as the earth.

My soul connects,

   and returns.

in one heartbeat, one dream.

Peace and Love,